The Autofocus Philosophy

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This week I have been exploring how much I struggle with doing things in public and being afraid of failing, and it all comes down to worrying about what others might think. This will help you if you like me think too much and are afraid of taking action.

Last week I spoke about “what will you tomorrow want you to do today?” and you can still apply the same philosophy here. What will you in 10 years want you today to do? To take a risk deep down you want to do or do nothing, like the rest of the people?

my favourite quote from the podcasts I’ve listened to this week is:

You hear it everywhere. "Stop caring what others think of you"

It serves the same purpose as "just stop being sad"

This is not how our brains work. You need to focus on what you want to do instead, not what you want to stop doing. Once you focus on yourself. What you think, what you do and how you feel about YOU, everything will fall into place.

An example is people focusing on other people's lives. It is something that has always bothered me. Ironically, while being annoyed by it I was then thinking about others therefore not thinking about myself.

Mind Fuck. 

People watching other people are not focused on their own life by default, usually unconsciously because there is something they do not want to face. Once you turn inwards, you stop thinking about others. When you stop thinking about others, you automatically stop caring.

Do not care what others think about you is flawed. Most people focus on the wrong part of the equation.

What you think of you = what others think of you 

People stop caring what others do or think, or say only when they are more focused on themselves. Your aim then must be to give yourself confidence by trusting and caring about yourself.

Here is how: 

1. How To Stop Caring What Others Think

2. Think of yourself. Do it now.

3. What do you think about your day-to-day? Are you proud? What is something you want to change?

4. Break it down and find something, that you will commit to do, that you can do today, that you will do. Do it. 1% better.

4. Tomorrow review and find something else you want to do, that you could do, that you will do.

Rinse and repeat.

You will start to see yourself with new eyes and care what you think of yourself a bit more.

1% more, every day.

Congratulations, you've stopped caring what others think.

stay curious, Karam