You Are Okay The Way You Are

"You are okay the way you are,” said my therapist during our sessions:

"Accept yourself; you do not need to do or be anything else, you are okay the way you are. Don't be so hard on yourself."

That's when I knew I would not see her again.

That got me thinking: why was there a disconnect between me and my therapist? Is it because she is a woman and was giving me advice from a female perspective?

Let's examine:

Men often want to change themselves to fit into the world, while women might seek to change the world to fit themselves.

Well, that makes sense.

When a woman visits a therapist, she might want reassurance that she's fine just as she is, suggesting that the problem lies with a world that doesn't accept her. This reassurance can provide peace of mind, allowing her to continue her day without the pressure to better herself.

Meanwhile, as a man, I am self-conscious about everything I want to change about myself. Being told I am okay the way I am only made me feel worse.

Let's use an example: When a man is overweight, he typically tries to lose weight, hit the gym, and better himself in that way.

When women are overweight, they might advocate for changes in beauty standards or perceptions of obesity rather than focusing on changing themselves.

If you are a man struggling with change, this video will give you hope.

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I am not who I want to be. I have big aspirations for myself, and I am harsh on myself. The Goggins approach resonates with me.

I am a self-lover masked as a masochist. If you're reading this, I assume you might feel the same way.

Only when the pendulum swings hardest to one side, when you touch rock bottom, can you truly bounce back.

When you're at your lowest, how can you accept someone telling you to just "accept yourself"?

If you feel uncomfortable with yourself, with the way you are:

If you feel there are things you want to improve, do not let anyone tell you otherwise.

As a man, you must take care of yourself, and that is the sign that you are meant for more than just accepting mediocrity.

The difference between where you are and where you want to be is discipline.

Remember, do not underestimate how normal the normies are. Trust your gut.

Stay Curious,

—Karam